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We have purchased a memorial tree in a metro park in Michigan near where we used to live. We were in the park many times counting deer and talking our days through. We married when Carol was a widow with three children and I was divorced with two. These were tough times for the kids and, therefore, for Carol, who had to become a stay at home Mom again to referee the kids. We purchased the tree years ago so that we all could begin its existance with joy and happiness, and not after our deaths. This park was what helped us with our communications that is so essential for a good marriage - out and away with the birds, trees and deer. We picnicked under the tree and the kids and now the grandkids are familiar with the tree and site. We are going to be cremated and our ashes placed at the base of the tree. Then our loved ones will not have to come to a cemetery and feel sad but to a place that has had so much happiness. We agree that everyone mourns in their own way but a memorial service showcasing the life, and not a funeral wallowing in the death, is what we want.
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