Thank you all for the information, got some good advice. I guess I didn't know what a hot topic this was but for good reason. Ultimately I will make the right decision, I too want to be safe and keep the people on the road with me safe while trying to accommodate my wants and needs in a 5th wheel.
I know I have enough truck now, it just comes with some sacrifice on the size of trailer I buy.
Sorry for opening this can of worms again, quite alot of different opinions for sure.
Thanks again for all the responses, went and looked at rv's again yesterday, !!!