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04-08-2015, 06:19 AM
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Montana Fan
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Milton
Posts: 275
M.O.C. #14116
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I know you're trying to be helpful, but please
My husband and I will celebrate our 29th wedding anniversary in June. We've been RVing together for 12 years now. We are both grey haired and I would think owning a 2014 Montana would give the impression that we've been doing this for a while.
So please... Men (women never do this)... Do NOT try to "guide" my husband into our site. We have a method down and it works for us, that is UNLESS you decide to wander over and "help". I am obviously on my cellphone with him, gesturing and guiding him in. He is too polite to tell you that I am talking to him in his Bluetooth earpiece. He will cut the wheel the way you say and pull up or back in as far as you tell him to show you he is a friendly person. It will take us MUCH longer to situate ourselves and once again we will both be in a bad mood when we're finally set up.
It happened again this trip and I'm sure the gentleman who thought he was helping now thinks I'm the nastiest woman he's met in a long time.
Thank you for letting me vent.
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04-08-2015, 07:22 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Lake Gaston
Posts: 8,773
M.O.C. #12156
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Understand the frustration. I am not so kind. I politely indicate I need no help and if that does not work, I tell them to go away, pull up their lawn chair and watch. Basic RVer courtesy is to not bother folks when coming in or leaving a site. We all have our routine and do not like interruptions as that is when mistakes tend to happen
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Mike and Lorraine
2002 3655 FL, 2005 3650RK
2010 3665RE, 2015 3910FB
F350 crew cab dually 6.7
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04-08-2015, 08:39 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: McKinney
Posts: 7,171
M.O.C. #6433
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I am naturally a friendly and helpful person. But in spite of seeing someone having real trouble getting into their site, I have never gone over without their request to help. And I never offer help to neighbors for anything else unless we have already met, became somewhat aquainted, I have judged their personality, and see them working on some repairs or something. Then I may walk over and start a general discussion and gauge by his attitude whether he might welcome help or not. If I get the wrong vibe, I just mosey back to my own site.
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Bill & Patricia
Riley, our Golden
2007 3075RL (recently sold, currently without)
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04-08-2015, 09:03 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Roswell
Posts: 627
M.O.C. #12028
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Take it from someone who that has watched Bill and Patricia back into a site, if he asked to help me, I would throw him the keys and watch. He really does a great job. He can park mine anytime he wants.
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04-08-2015, 09:05 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Washington Coast
Posts: 2,688
M.O.C. #10696
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The ONLY time I have helped is when A first timer was trying to pull next to me and having real Problems ,so his Wife knocked on our door and asked for help,NO PROBLEM,we got it done and hooked up and then they invited us over for a few glasses of Vino..COOL
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04-08-2015, 10:03 AM
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Montana Fan
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Silverdale
Posts: 275
M.O.C. #7117
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Jimmy- by posting that I believe you are just trying to "plant a seed" that you want to drive my truck and "plant" my 5er when we meet down at Silver Cove. You know, if you did that you might be truck shopping the next day...
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04-08-2015, 10:27 AM
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Montana Fan
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Milton
Posts: 275
M.O.C. #14116
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I had a feeling that I was preaching to the choir, so to speak. But aaaargh. There must be something about us that says, "helpless". And my husband is really very good at parking it just where we want it.
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04-08-2015, 10:33 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: McKinney
Posts: 7,171
M.O.C. #6433
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Quote:
quote:Originally posted by grayghost03
Take it from someone who that has watched Bill and Patricia back into a site, if he asked to help me, I would throw him the keys and watch. He really does a great job. He can park mine anytime he wants.
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You must have seen me the one time I got it on the first try.
Years ago when having trouble getting into a particularly tight site, and after multiple tries still not exactly where I wanted, a guy in the next site laying back in his chaise lounge drinking a cool one said "If you run out of diesel, I'll run up and get you some". Now that is helpful.
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Bill & Patricia
Riley, our Golden
2007 3075RL (recently sold, currently without)
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04-08-2015, 11:27 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Waterford
Posts: 3,693
M.O.C. #7500
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I normally try to sell tickets to people for watching me attempt to park. On a really 'off' day, I can make most of my camping fees back.
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04-08-2015, 12:16 PM
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Site Team
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Wilsey
Posts: 18,799
M.O.C. #11455
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I will offer help if it appears someone needs it. Helped back a rig in yesterday. I'll ask and if they say no then I'm gone. If someone offers me help I don't need I have no problem telling them that we'll meet them when we're done, but we're busy now and please leave us alone.
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Dick, Joyce, Diego, Picatso and Gustav
2017 3720 RL, and 2013 HC 343RL
Pullrite Hitch, IS, Disk Brakes, 3rd AC, Winegard Traveler, Bathroom door mod, Dometic 320, couch for desk swap, replaced chairs, sun screens, added awnings, etc.
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04-08-2015, 01:08 PM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Aguanga
Posts: 606
M.O.C. #13601
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I don't mind if people ask if i need help. I just ask them to go in the back and make sure I don't hit anything. Makes them feel helpful and more eyes looking for unseen stuff can't hurt. If they told me to turn my wheel x direction, i'd just ignore them.
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04-08-2015, 01:25 PM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Washington Coast
Posts: 2,688
M.O.C. #10696
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You are Correct My man I know I will want to go truck shopping the Next day Glenn,you got 60K I could Bum off ya??
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quote:Originally posted by Glenn the fifth
Jimmy- by posting that I believe you are just trying to "plant a seed" that you want to drive my truck and "plant" my 5er when we meet down at Silver Cove. You know, if you did that you might be truck shopping the next day...
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04-08-2015, 02:09 PM
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Montana Master
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Hixson
Posts: 3,436
M.O.C. #11397
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I don't give them a chance. I have mine backed in before they can get out of their chair and walk over. Then my wife gets out of the truck and starts setting up inside.
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Full Timers 9/1/2010 through 1/16/2020.
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04-08-2015, 03:49 PM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Shipman
Posts: 552
M.O.C. #10136
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My wife and I both agree with napria.....we both know what to do and how to help each other when backing, what to look for, etc....we communicate very well.....we always use the GOALS system when backing....works like a charm....we use walkies when deemed necessary as well....and I have to admit...sometimes I surprise myself when I do an unexpected good job....but I always give credit to my wife and her ability to guide me....so yes...we prefer to be left alone until setup is complete....
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04-08-2015, 08:23 PM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Redding
Posts: 1,421
M.O.C. #12339
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Ok ok my real pet peeve! Some guy comes running up, even before you start your parking menuver, to tell you the "big secret" he learned! "If you just hold the steering wheel by the bottom"! I am usually very nice and say something funny to ease the situation. Some people get angry if you don't take their advice. Especially since I am only 55 and wet behind the ears. Specially like to have lil fun with older guys. I say "look at my truck and Rig" , "son", does this look like its my first rodeo? I also like the guy who yells instructions, or looks disappointed when you ignore them! Lol. I once asked a guy to stop yelling, I said I can't hear "Tammy Winnette" on my radio! Lol.
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04-09-2015, 12:46 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: South Shore
Posts: 6,009
M.O.C. #7110
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I had a guy come up to the window and was attempting to give me directions backing in once. My wife was assisting already and I guess he thought he could do better. I plainly ignored him and watched the D/W in the mirror. He didn’t assist for very long. Some people just think that because a woman is helping you they don’t know what they are doing.
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2011 GMC 4X4 dually CC, 6.6 Duramax with Allison Transmission. Formally 2001 Montana,2007 3400RL Montana, presently 2018 3401RS Alpine.
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04-09-2015, 03:45 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: North Ridgeville
Posts: 20,229
M.O.C. #2839
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Helen normally does all the backing as I have a better view from outside should I have to give a direction which I rarely do.
What I normally get is guys running over to me questioning why I let her do the backing.
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04-09-2015, 04:46 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Copperas Cove
Posts: 1,426
M.O.C. #12096
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Last summer we went out to Mesa Az. to one of the mega RV campgrounds(if you wanna call it that). They have guides to "help" you get into your site. The site they gave us was gonna be a challenge but figured I could get her in there. But the old guy says I have to follow his instructions, says he been doing this a long time????? Well right off the bat he has be pull up against a palm tree and I know there is no way my trailer is gonna make this turn. I tell him so and I get the "I do this all day so listen to me"??? Ok, now I am jacked around to where we are going no where. After him yelling at me and me telling him he is nuts for about 20 minutes, I ignored him as he yelled and a neighbor watching laughed and lined my rig up and slide it in on the first shot. Afterwards he wanted to make nice and complimented me on my driving skills. Had to tell him I don't sit in parks for a long time like most of the people you get in here, my rig is an over the road rig so yeah not my first rodeo too lol lol lol
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04-09-2015, 05:49 PM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Winthrop Harbor
Posts: 1,831
M.O.C. #8160
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My co-pilot, Louise, and I have a great system that has worked for years. She's much more polite than I am when being offered "help". I firmly tell them that she really knows what she's doing.
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04-10-2015, 12:05 AM
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Montana Master
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Frostproof, FL USA
Posts: 2,362
M.O.C. #13272
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We always try to be pleasant when help arrives. But we have also learned that you need to get rid of those helpers and do it yourself to avoid mishaps. The problem is that it sometimes sets the tone with your new neighbors. We just decided early on not to worry about it if we ended up with a grumpy neighbor. We would rather get backed in and set up smoothly and safely than worry about hurting someone's feelings.
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