BandJ,
If you go to the "PictureTrail" link in my signature block and click on the album labeled "Shackles" you'll see what it is you should be looking for. The wear is VERY hard to see while the shackles are in place. But if you look very closely you CAN see when they start to wear. Of course once they are removed any damaged ones can easily be recognized as you can see by the pictures. I'm not the only one who has posted some pictures. There are several very good examples.
If you have under 20K miles on the rig then you probably don't have anything to worry about. Over that number and you really should check them regularly of if you don't feel comfortable doing it have a mechanic take a look. If you know what you are looking for the wear is easy to spot. By the way... my brother is the mechanic in the family. I just hand him the tools.
Good luck and safe travels....
HamRad