I am very comfortable with my setup. 2018 Ram 2500 with the Gas 6.4, bed is 6.4 with a Curt slider #20. Trailer is a 42' 381TH. I hit the scales a lot at first to get comfortable with loading. Pin weight with hitch has always been below 3500k and trailer fully loaded was just over 15k. Is that the best setup? Guess I could convert a Peterbuilt or Kenworth.
You will read lots of posts about this, as mentioned before. Do what you feel is right.